Differences between the male and female personality and temperament are quite obvious. Men are generally aggressive while women are inherently passive. Allow me to use the analogy of driving to illustrate my point.
Cut in front of a woman on the freeway and she will usually just calmly back off. They are usually quite accommodating when you are trying to merge onto a freeway. However, I must admit that their passive demeanor doesn't necessarily extend to other women drivers. I have encountered some, while driving in Drag, who seemed determined to prevent me from ever entering the freeway.
Conversely, men are very possessive of most everything including their space on the freeway, pull in front of a man and chances are you will be subjected to any number of disapproving gestures or a possible attempt to get even. At least that is how it appears to work in the San Francisco Bay Area.
Give a woman an appliance as a gift and she is offended, give a man a power tool and he is delighted.
There are exceptions of course, but generally men tend to be overbearing, boisterous, monopolize conversations, and insist on having things their way. Women, on the other hand are careing, nurturing, helpful. They are more subtle, better listeners, more demure, willing to compromise and generally easier to get along with. Isn't that the kind of image we would like to put forth?
A fairly large group of us were going to dinner at an upscale hotel. As we passed by the very posh lounge with a great view of the city someone suggested that we have a drink before going downstairs to the restaurant. Two of the girls, without hesitation or allowing for discussion said curtly, "NO, we can have drinks at our table" and walked off. Not very lady like was it? Definitely a dominant male persona.
We have become quite adept at looking like females. We are as proficient as any GG when it comes to picking out an outfit that will make us stand out in crowd or selecting matching shoes and accessories. We look like women we walk like women we sit like women and some of us even talk like women. Through our willingness to share ideas we have become so skillful at making ourselves beautiful that we are the envy of many genetic females
However, most of us including many post SRS ladies I have observed leave much to be desired when it comes to portraying a feminine personality. From my observations, with few exceptions this is one aspect of the feminine gender that we have failed to perfect and most of us would probably finish dead last in a Miss Congeniality Contest.
The reason may be that we are not cognizant of our masculine personality and therefore pay little attention to it not realizing the significant roll that it can play in presenting that complete feminine lady. Perhaps we assume that we automatically inherit feminine traits when we get all dolled up and become the girl of our dreams. At least I always assumed that was the situation in my case until my SO pointed out while watching and listing to a video with some of my friends, that being dressed en femme did not alter my dominant personality. "Oh my God!" I had to work on that. I think I am making progress though, because I would certainly be indignant if someone gave me an appliance for Christmas.
How do we acquire a feminine personality and demeanor? Do we really want to? I'm not sure that I have an answer. Perhaps it has something to do with how much or how little we are attracted to the opposite sex (men). This may be an invisible shield that we throw up to ward off unwanted advances or it may be our subconscious inability to completely let go of our masculinity and become totally feminine.
Whatever the reason, when Going Public try to be as beautiful inside as you are on the outside. Make your personality match that pretty outfit. Macho Sucks!
See you at the Mall.
Robin Jean Peters
There is more to being a woman
than wearing a dress
